I like her. But I don’t know how to get her. I don’t have what it takes. She’s out of my league. And yes, I am torpe!
The girl you’ve been dying to go out with walked pass by you, greeted you “hi” and flashed her most bewitching smile you have ever seen in your whole life. Your eyes fixed on her, jaw dropped, ears turned red. Then your heart made a skid and a funny somersault with a matching thump, thump, thump! Dit, dit, dit! Every organ of your body starts to tingle and you felt like you want to throw your arms around her and hug her tightly, never let her go and just wished that she could be yours.
Holding hands, sharing spaghetti meatballs for dinner, ice cream walk going home. Then there’s a moment of silence. The girl you like just confessed that she had a crush on you even before. You tried not to smile but ended up smiling so wide, your face almost popped. Everything falls into place that you’d begin to say “So this is what happy looks like” sometimes, you wanted to freeze the moment and live with it for the rest of your life. Feeling how it is to be young and in love high school style over again. But Ennnnkkkkk! your alarm clock beeped then you realized that someone’s playing Nelly’s “Only Just A Dream” . Bummer.
Are you sick of being trapped in your dreams and fantasy all these years? Too afraid to tell her what you want? This I tell you, you can’t just live with your fantasy forever. You’ve got to skim to the surface of reality. It is time to make a breakthrough man. You don’t want for sure to grow old hating yourself for not plucking the courage to ditch your waiting-for-a-second-hand-pick-me-up game. Oh wait, maybe something is holding you back. Something in your mind is saying that you can’t pull off a suit and tie on a date. Or perhaps, you’d think that you might screw your chance. Everything you’d ever dreamed of on a romantic perspective might be shattered into pieces. This is you fearing the feeling of being rejected. But don’t you think it is worth a shot? Remember, the more you try, the more chances of winning.
Go talk to the girl you like. Say “hi” first, heaven knows, she’s waiting for the same thing. I don’t think that you’d want to spend your whole life pining for the girl that you like but you just don’t have had your nerves pulled together. Go out on a limb and start doing things differently your way. You’re a guy, you’d probably want to say or maybe sing “Wendy run away with me, I know it sounds crazy, don’t you see what you do to me” Don’t wait for happiness to come. Go hunt it!
Girls are like a book half unread; there is so much to learn from them. They can be unpredictable because they gun down mixed signals everywhere. Blame that to their unhinged mood swings. But I am here to help you get through all with this! Well, brace yourselves for I give you a checklist of what girls like and don’t like about guys. So grab your pens and papers and prepare to scribble down these fun facts and you’re good to go to get that girl.
QUICK READ: Research has shown that a man’s physical attractiveness is unassumingly a positive indication of how he usually goes on a date (Berscheid and others, 1971). This must be a pogi points to good-looking men. Nevertheless, a study of Fletcher (2004) has revealed that women would prefer warm and homey guys rather than the ones who got the looks but is as cold as ice. Furthermore, good news to all guys, a woman sees a man in every angle. She sees the whole of you. It means, a woman finds a man who is honest, kind, dependable and has a sense of humor to be more attractive. Personality outweighs everything. After all, it is something more than what meets the eye.
- The Chivalry Code: The Winner Cryptogram
A guy who dresses finely would definitely sweep women off to their edges. But a guy who opens a door for a woman automatically is something more than the default definition of what is physically attractive. Nothing is more attractive if a guy is humble and gentle and has the Prince William of Wales’s persona. Nothing beats courteousness. After all, as what a famous quote says “a gentleman is not defined by the content of his wallet or the cut of his suit. He is defined by his manners and the content of his character”. In spite of everything, being a gentleman wherever and whenever will always outweigh a million dollar knockout looks. I mean, being a gentleman is good as having six-packed abs. And it is a matter of choice. Bear in mind, a man is chivalrous when he knows that his actions carry more weight than any other words spoken. Don’t let the Chivalry Code die. Keep it burning!
2. Funny Joe never goes out of style
Got some funny bone right there? Don’t hide them on your closet, show them off! Being the funny guy is actually cool. A girl would definitely prefer to be with a guy who tickles her with so much laughter; to the point that having her stomach hurt from laughing is better than having her mouth shut and dried with boredom all day. It would eventually narrow down to the saying that “People with a good sense of humor have a better sense of life”. You don’t have to be conventionally hot and handsome to deserve a pretty girl. Girls amusingly have different and odd standards on guys. So, why don’t you kick it up a notch and let your inner comedian take over the stage. You’ll get a real score here man! Real score.
3.Talk nerdy to me
When guys take education seriously, it would make them look five times more attractive. If you think that you belong to the smartypants department, then you might just score the “how-to-get-the-girl game” fair and square. A perfectly toned body will certainly get the ladies’ attention but they would love it better when you impress them with trivial information and loads of “do you knows…” Girls would enjoy seeing guys talk about space, galaxy, Star Wars, Big Bang theory, Nebula and other science or math stuffs. Girls would like to learn something. It is nice to talk something out of this world once in a while.
4. Peter Griffin is the Family Guy
Ladies would definitely fall for guys who value family more over his girlfriend or anything in this world. It means that, when men are so attached to their family, it shows that they are not only capable of producing testosterone but also capable of fostering care and protection to their love ones. Family-oriented blokes will always have a soft spot when it comes to family. It also means that guys who care are guys worth keeping.
5. NO CAR
This has been a subject of pun on the internet few months ago – The “NO CAR” phenomenon. The thing became a trend especially when guys wanted to date girls but just can’t because of the “NO CAR” issue. Well, at some light, it could bruise a guy’s ego but seriously girls should hate or not like guys who have NO CAR. Like who wouldn’t? NO CAR stands for Nagger, Obsessive, Conceited And Reckless. It would irritate a woman to find a guy so naggy and bossy. Girls don’t like it when guys become so obsessive with them. The obsession might go out of hand so it is a NO NO for girls. A man who only thinks of himself and cares only for what he believes is true is a minus point. Lastly, girls wouldn’t like guys who are kamikaze-the ones who doesn’t show proper concern about the possible consequences of the action taken. NO CAR means NO chance.
6. Torque and Torpe
Sometimes, even a physically attractive man who is confident in his other aspects in life can be branded as torpe; and when it comes to a girl that is a total turn-off. Surprisingly, some girls like it when the guy is torpe. For them, it is cute in a sense that a guy is hesitant to talk to a girl even if it wouldn’t hurt him. Well, some girls despise it so much because at some point, they are only waiting for the go signal. Men are stereotyped to do the first move when it comes to flirting and dating and even screwing up. But being ma torpe is what makes a guy lose his chances of getting the girl. Being torpe will slow him down. It would just amplify his longing and will loosen his grips of holding on. Maybe being torpe is what would make guys hold back. Maybe it has become a burden. Maybe, it is time for you guys to vaporize your boiling feelings on the inside.
7. Be a bag of wind and that’s how you lose the girl
There are loads of reasons why girls are discouraged with guys. But the most common motive is how men start their engine of pure bragging. Men who have a hot air balloon of pride are never in. Shows offs can be simplified as slick gits or complete idiots. By bragging something to someone, you might find yourself trapped in a sticky situation, most likely you’d be breaking some bones and nose. Having a fit on someone just to prove something about your masculinity is honestly, not being a man. It is an act of immaturity. Not all things can be extrapolated with breaking tissues. Boasting is never a good factor. So girl tip to guy: NEVER BE A BAG OF WIND, that’s never cool.
Women love muscles you know. Those chunks of biceps and triceps are naturally beguiling. So, if you don’t have these. Go workout. Kidding aside, just because you don’t have that superhero physique, it doesn’t mean you don’t stand a chance. Girls like Guys with MUSCLES. As in guys who are Mature, Understanding, Selfless, Caring, Loving, and Excellent Supporter. I am pretty sure that this is, comprehendible, but guys who can be a man, can be mature in any way. And you can truly say that a man is mature when he knows how to understand, when he doesn’t only think for his welfare but for others as well, the one who checks his girl all the time, the one who loves without a blink of doubt, the one who is ready, rain or shine, to support his love ones all through the way. That is what I call, real MUSCLES. And real men, have MUSCLES, may it be literally meant or not.
9. Always a tone of Surprise
Girls like it when you give them surprises. For them, it is a gesture of how much you care and love them. When being surprised, you feel special, loved and remembered. It really counts to throw some surprises to the person that means to you. Now, you don’t have to spend a lot of money just to make your surprise dates extraordinary. It doesn’t have to be so grand and fancy. All you need is a dash of creativity and a sprinkle of effort. That would make your plan more special because it is something that has been really thought of. It wouldn’t hurt to have a secret rendezvous. It could be an on the spot road trips, picnics on a park, midnight drives, stargazing, dinner for two on your makeshift restaurant right in your Mustang (or whatever car you have), just let your inventiveness detonate on your system, don’t let the call of desperation to spend too much money underestimate how you think creatively!
10. ERT (Effort, Respect, Time)
When mass is multiplied by acceleration, we get force. But for a guy to win a girl’s heart he has to exert force and by exerting force he has to solve for the ERT. The Effort, Respect and Time would crack the problem with bravado. Who doesn’t want to be the reason why someone works so hard just to give you what you want? That’s effort. It would take different, sometimes desperate measures when you try to impress someone, when you try to show them that you really like them. Effort is always the key why girls would fall for guys. The longer the guy endures, the more the girl is likely drawn for attraction. It is the action that matters more than words being spoken so nicely but actually meant nothing at the end of the day. Also, be the guy who respects not only girls but those people worthy to be given due respect. And most importantly, don’t forget to give some space for time. Give the girl enough time to think about you for a while. Don’t be the Naggy Shaggy to her. It takes time, so it means it takes patience to either make you or break you. It is okay not to necessarily bring the moon to the girl but just give her Effort, Respect and Time, mind you; the girl might give you the sweet yes.
They say pretty guys, always get the girl. No. Not always, not necessarily. It depends on the situation. Well, “tisoy or mestizo” guys might have the edge of winning a girl’s heart but that would be so unfair. I mean, we are equal on some ways. Even if the guy isn’t “tisoy” or the beyond-the-perimeter-handsome, he still has the winning power to triumph a good fight. Being pretty doesn’t always mean nice, gorgeous, eye-catching and other related synonyms. Pretty, could be something more; something great and sensible than what is abovementioned. You could be the kind of PRETTY who is Protective, Responsible, Easy going, Thoughtful, Tactful and the Yin to her Yang. It would be so special for girls to find guys who are PRETTY. A guy who can protect a girl like she’s a bomb that has to be taken precautions to and be safely protected is so perfect 10. A guy who takes responsible to his actions and knows how to take things seriously, someone who is easy to be with especially on rough times, someone who shows concern for the needs or feelings of other people, someone who is careful enough not to offend or upset others and most especially, a guy is completely PRETTY if he completes his girl in any other aspects- when he could be the vice to her versa, the apple to her pie, the butter on her jelly, and the Mc to her Flurry.
Now you see, for you to impress a girl, personality will always be a factor. Always and will be. So, if you feel like going to approach the girl you like, collect your courage and give it a good shot. Well, you’ve got nothing to lose. Instead, you will gain lessons and realizations. Just do it like you really mean, do it with a heart. Be the guy who is “I want you for worse or for better” in a world full of “Ikaw ra jud akong forever” –wa gabai